Life

In so many places in our life we have to make hard decisions. Decisions that will change who we are forever, and marriage is one of those decisions. We make the choice to jump in it so fast not thinking of what could come later.

We say, "I do, " and think that we will love this person forever, that nothing will tear us apart, and this, "in love feeling," will never change. We don't stop to think about how the things that we say in fight will hurt each other, or the actions that will make us feel disconnected.

I have only been married for five years, but I have developed a passion to make my marriage last 50+ years from now. I constantly read marriage books, scripture, and go on marriage retreats that are offered. But, I have yet to the manual. I see people that do nothing, that think that there marriage will fix itself, and they blame the other. When it's all over and done with, and they can't, "do this anymore," they give up and leave.

It truly breaks my heart to watch a marriage fail. I was 21 when my parents split up, and it hurt more than words can say. They were what I modeled my marriage on. They were what I knew of marriage. I can now say I try to model my marriage on the Bible, but it doesn't make it any easier.

When we go through these times were we hurt each other we have to recognize what we are doing. We have to change ourselves, and we have to seek forgiveness. We can't change the other person; it has to start with ourselves. There are still hurtful words, and actions. There are things I have went through I would have never thought about on the day I said, "I do," but we love each other. We are not going to be another statistic in a world that says marriage fails.

We will seek out example of marriage from the Lord.

Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hears were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning." Matthew 19.8